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This rant is titled: Officially Roommateless for Next Year

Let me first start with a bit of a background before I tell you what exactly happened tonight between my roommate and I.

First of all, my roommate and I had been planning on rooming together for next school year, or at least I thought we were. I kept trying to bring up the housing situation with her, and she could never give me a straight answer, or would tell me that we would worry about it when it was time to sign up for Housing. I began to get the idea that she didn't want to room with me, or that she had made plans and just didn't tell me, so I began making alternative plans just in case. I was either going to a.) live at home for a semester or b.) live alone in an apartment on campus. I told her about my alternate plans, thinking she would see them as alternates if our situation didn't work out.

So, tonight I brought it up for the first time in weeks, since housing sign ups start on Monday. I was driving and I looked at her, and said something along the lines of "I don't want to hinder your ability to get into the apartments on campus because I have less hours than you." (Sign up dates are determined by how many hours you have). She looked at me and said, "Oh... I thought you had plans all ready, so I made other plans."

That just killed me. I mean... Sure, I mentioned to her that I was possibly going to live alone, but it wasn't set in stone yet. And the fact that I kept bringing up the housing situation should have sent very clear signals to her that I was still interested, right?

Well, apparently that wasn't the case. I called my mom later tonight to talk to her about it and my mom noticed that when she brought up the idea of housing (prior to tonight's conversation) my roommate had been very indefinite, made no eye contact with her, etc. Which worries me. Why didn't my roommate just come out and say, "Well, if you're thinking of doing something else, I'll go ahead and make other plans." I mean, I was straightforward and honest wit her, I feel like I deserve the same respect, right?

Well, I basically cried all through church about it and then went to Starbuck's for an hour, talked to my best friend Alison, then talked to my mom again, went back to the dorm and locked myself in my room. A few minutes after I got back to my room (my roommate wasn't there yet), my other best friend Mike called me, and I got to tell him all about it as well, but I left the room, simply because I didn't want my roommate to hear me talking about her.

Anyway, I'm over the sad part, and am just mad. Clearly, I feel like I should have at least been informed that she was making other plans. I don't feel that my roommate handled the issue correctly, and that if she handles all of her problems this way, then maybe I just shouldn't be living with her anymore anyway. It's sad, and very depressing to think that, but given how we hardly talk when we're in the dorm, chances are it's for the best, even if I wish that it didn't have to be this way.

Anyway, what do you guys think? Am I overreacting to everything, or what? I really want a different perspective on things, because right now I feel like I am in the right.